“Cheating Fuckboys? That’s what you call them?” She threw her head back and laughed.
When I met him, he said they were through. He told me they hadn’t been intimate in ages. It was only a matter of time before they split up officially.”
She paused and wrapped her delicate fingers around her glass of wine. She lifted the glass to her lips and took a quick sip.
“You must’ve known he was lying right? I mean don’t they all talk about how much their girl sucks and how miserable they are. You must’ve known.” I said waiting for her to tell me that she doubted him.
“No I didn’t. You wouldn’t have either. He was very convincing. Even his friends were in on it too. They told me they were working on a divorce. Turns out that was a lie later on.”
I stared at her and I wasn’t sure what to say.
“At least I left him eventually. Some never do.”
Fuckboys are often cheaters. Some are the sneaky kind that will do such a great job at not getting caught that you’ll never know. Maybe you’ll know one day after he dies and his other kids with their mother show up. Some are a bit careless or their women are lucky enough to find out.
Often when caught a Cheating Fuckboy will claim that:
- He is unhappy and that’s why he cheated.
- He’s a sex addict.
- Monogamy is unnatural (Woke Fuckboys love to do this)
- You are crazy! How could you suspect him?
- It’s not that big a deal. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you.
- All men cheat.
Fuckboys have many other excuses but the point is they will never accept full responsibility for cheating. It’s always “It was wrong but…” Besides, one thing Fuckboys enjoy is women fighting over them. You feed their ego. They already feel that they are special and a gift to women. And then they have women fighting over them? How amazing they must be.
They’ll promise to change too. And they’ll be so convincing. Maybe he’ll go to counselling, talk about how crappy he feels about what he’s done, his Mommy issues, it’ll be something that makes you feel like he has done some deep introspection. Often this won’t last or he’ll slip up sometimes and ask you why you won’t just get over it. I mean he’s said he’s sorry after all!
The Cheating Fuckboy often plays different roles. To his side chick, he is a poor victim. Trapped in a horrible relationship, he convinces her that she needs to save him. She is his sanctuary. He needs her.
Being needed is a strong drug. A drug powerful enough to seduce even the most intelligent among us.
To his woman, the Cheating Fuckboy is often apologetic. He is always sorry and trying harder to be a better man. He will probably not change. Even if he changes, the damage to her has already been done. Can she heal and move forward? Forget it ever happened? Or will she cringe every time she watches a movie where the man is cheating? Will she keep checking his phone? His Instagram? How much of herself will she lose playing the FBI?
If you’re his side chick, he’s not gonna leave his wife. And even if he does, you know what they say “When a man marries his mistress he creates a vacancy.”Are you ever really going to trust him knowing what he did to the last woman who did? He did love her at some point regardless of what he tells you. Say you don’t marry your married boyfriend and you meet someone else. Say he’s amazing and one day you find out he’s been cheating on you. Can you be mad?
If you’re with a Cheating Fuckboy, just remember you can forgive people and love them from afar. Forgiving them doesn’t mean you must remain with them. If you’re a side chick, you can do better. You deserve better than someone who can’t keep their word and has to resort to betrayal. Choose wisely!
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